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How do I tell my bestie who’s been trying
to get pregnant that I’m expecting?
While it can take some couples months or even years of trying,
it can seem like others become pregnant just by sneezing. Ok,
sneezing and being naked with their partner on top of them. I
have to admit I was one of the latter. For my husband ( fiancé at
the time) , the first time was literally a charm. Not many people
plan a pregnancy five months before their wedding.
So now that you’re happily pregnant and ready to share the
news, how do you break it to your friends who are dealing with
infertility? Carefully and thoughtfully are the key words here.
The best way to tell her:
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Share the news tactfully. Make sure to tell your friend first before
making an announcement on social media. When you do tell
her, say it without making such a huge deal about it. More
like: “I’ve got some news to share.” Less like: “Guess what?? I’m
pregnant!” Don’t be disappointed if she doesn’t share your
level of enthusiasm. This is going to hurt her no matter what.
Just accept it and try to understand how she feels.
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Don’t vent about your morning sickness or any other pregnancy
downers to her. Regardless of how miserable you’re feeling,
she’ll wish it was her going through those un-fun stages. Instead,
complain all you want to your partner, your mother or your sister
who already has two kids.
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When you do speak to her or spend time with her, don’t let your
pregnancy become the focus. Try to deflect attention away
from your bump and instead veer the conversation to any other
subject: your annoying mother-in-law, her new job or your other
friends latest blind date.
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Don’t feel weird about including her in certain things. She’s
still your close friend and it would be strange not to have her
involved in some of the more special and celebratory parts of
having a baby, such as your baby shower or choosing a name.
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